Together-gether we grow in excellence…

March 14th, 2006 by butterfly-life

What would you expect from a group of people with different walk of lives that you met through a program two years ago and got really close together for that three months? I admit I was in doubt when it was suggested that we should get-together once again for two days one night at Fraser Hill. 23 people out of 63 people from the course two years ago made a stand to create this special get-together. I haven’t expected it but FUN is all I get. Of course there were changes in everyone’s lives. I am married and a mother to a nine months baby. From that 23 people, two were divorced now, one got registered, four paired up and etc but one thing is for sure…everyone is still very much the same person I knew two years ago.

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Fun was created simply by being authenthic, going all out and giving 100% in everything we do during that outing. There was really no worries but we never compromised safety. We went by 6 cars but we had walkie talkies to keep us together and entertain each other during the drive.We had 3 photographers to snap all the natural and funny poses and we did it together whether it’s some games or simply going for a short walk. There was no grumbling or anyone giving troubles to the group. When it was decided to go into the waterfall, everyone is into it and when we had games later at night, everyone jumped into it and give it all out eventhough some of the punishments was really outrageous and totally the opposite of the person’s personalities.We also got a little bit more personal by having a truth or dare games by asking some really intimate questions.

C37d 92c1 We had a short jungle trekking the next morning before packing to go off. The trip, though short is really memorable and I felt so refreshed as if all the negative energies from work and stuffs were all gone. We definitely will have another get-together in the future and I believe that the group will get bigger.

Of inspiration and dream

January 11th, 2006 by butterfly-life

Everyone has a dream or dreams in their lives that they would like to achieve whether it can be realised or not. It could be from wanting to be a scientist or movie star to having a big business empire. Some only dream of having a simple life with a good job and happy family. Dreams gave us hope and a meaning to lives.

I suddenly get this inspiration while I was thinking of how to renovate my baby’s nursery room, thanks to my new year resolution. I always feel that children are getting lesser and lesser space for them to play and to express their creativities. Some housing developers don’t even care to build a simple playground for the communities and those with playgrounds are poorly maintain.

So this is where I thought of having an indoor playground with safety and cleanliness in mind. The children can roam around climbing, running, jumping,shouting and when they are tired, they can sit,eat and read a book. Those who have been to KidsWorld in MidValley would know what I’m talking about. They could be the first in Malaysia but that doesn’t mean that we can’t have more of these places for the children. I even have a name for my playground-MyKidsLand for this is a place they can call thier own. I even go to the extend of searching the current indoor playground available and the rental of such a place. I even know when I want to start this place.

However some dreams don’t come cheap. First it’s not going to be cheap to buy such a playground and plus the overhead and rental of such place in major shopping complexes. Also in consideration is how much charges parents are willing to pay for their children and whether is it enough to cover the cost of investment? Not only that, I need to find a few investors who believe in my dream, who would also be a team players. There is also commitment to maintain and attract people and you have to put your time and energy to make it work whether it’s a weekends or public holidays.

Nonetheless, I believe strongly that children deserve all these because they are our future as Whitney Houston sang in her song "Greatest Love Of All" I can see the happiness shine through of a child’s face as they let their minds roam freely in my place.

Greatest Love Of All- Whitney Houston

I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be
Everybody’s searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone to fulfill my needs
A lonely place to be
So I learned to depend on me

Chorus:
I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadow
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I’ll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can’t take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be

Chorus

And if by chance, that special place
That you’ve been dreaming of
Leads you to a lonely place
Find your strength in love

2006

December 29th, 2005 by butterfly-life

It has been quiet for some time on the blogs activities with everyone including me being too caught up with the Christmas and New Year celebrations. Some of us are busy meeting deadlines and clearing their annual leaves. Any of my friends busy queuing up at the National Registration Department to get their free MyKad after procrastinating for three years? December this year sped by like a bullet train to me and it’s less than 48 hours counting down to 2006.

I love fireworks but I dislike being stuck in a crowded areas with all that you see are ocean full of people that bound to be a hassle to get a good view of the stage or long queue everywhere. The good news is I can see the Petronas Twin Tower where beautiful fireworks are being displayed eventhough it’s very far away and provided it’s a clear sky that night.I can’t really recall how I celebrated New Year last year cause it’s a low-key celebration with people mourning the deaths in the wake of the tsunami disaster that hit across Asia and Africa.

While everyone is busy planning how to start the new year with a bang, it’s time to reflect the pass year before closing that chapter of our lives and look forward to the coming years. It’s time to make new year resolutions though I know not many people will keep it and it’ll probably be lost when you want to review it at the end of the year but it’s a positive note to show that you are keeping track of your progress in lives.

My resolution for year 2006 is first, to make my house look and feel more homely. The past year, my house doesn’t feel like home with me and my husband seldom come home to it as he travels often and I wouldn’t want to stay alone. Now with the addition of a new family member,my son, I would like to renovate one of my empty rooms into his nursery and bedroom. I also would like to find more time to prepare food in my own kitchen for my husband, even once in a while will do as it’s a waste not to use it after renovating it beautifully. I would like to prepare a guest room eventhough I don’t have much guest but it’s a way to tell eveyone to be my guests. Also that means I should ask my in-laws to come more often to my house.

Secondly, I would like to go back to my own size before pregnancy though everyone tells me that it’s not possible to go back 100%. If 100% is not achievable, hopefully it’s 90% and I shall find way to change my wardrobe- actually it’s my clothes as I feel many of my previous clothes doesn’t really suit my new mom personality.

Then there is my attitudes to change. Though I have learnt to be more patient I feel that I still have long way to go. Children can judge best and that explains why my baby prefer my husband than me. I hope to be a better parent to my child. It’s important to lead them by examples and it’s good to teach them from young. Most children I see nowadays are given eveything the best by their parents but their attitudes are totally unacceptable. With us working parents having not enough time for the children, it’s easy to spoil them but it’s not to say that I want to control,hit or shout at them. The old way definitely have to go but finding a best way to teach children nowadays is a challenge.

Last but not least, it’s the work…to find a higher income and improve the working environments. Now how to improve? I’m still scratching my head.

Have a Merry Christmas!

December 12th, 2005 by butterfly-life

With Christmas just around the corner, everyone is planning their own memorable Christmas. From young I imagined Christmas as snow falling, house decorated in lights with a Chritmas Tree in the hall decorated with beautiful ornaments and Santa Claus delivering presents. Many people would have the idea of having a great bash with loud music, dancing and alcohols with the hope that we can party right through the next year and have a great start to the year. All these are because Christmas has become too commercialise so that people will spend more to buy presents and to frequent the pubs. I’ll say it’s quite an effective marketing strategy. It is the festival I most look forward to after Chinese New Year.

So, my good friend Angeline has the best intention to invite all her friends to celebrate Christmas with her by attending a musical in her church. Frankly speaking there was some reluctancy especially from me and being the straightforward me, I told her it’s not the way I plan to have Christmas. For this I really do apologise and I hope it does not put her off from future invitation. It is not my intention to insult any religions or put off any good intention to show us the real Christmas. How many of us really know the meaning to Christmas? 

As my good friend Angeline explains,"The whole idea Christmas came about was because of the birth of One Child, Jesus of Nazareth. He is also known as Christ Jesus, who founded the early church.. Christ-mas? That’s the whole idea.. He later on died on the cross on Good Friday as an atoning sacrifice for our sins (because He was without sin-He ganti us on the cross) and was raised again on Easter day (tat’s why we have eggs - a symbol of life). The only thing we need to do is believe in Him, and we shall have eternal life.

So, for us, Christians, we go to church on Christmas day not only to celebrate the birth of our Saviour, but also to remind us of the gift of life He has given us (tat’s why we give presents)."
Thank you Angeline for telling us the meaning to Christmas. But my main idea is not to party on Christmas day. I think I’m getting old to have that kind of energy. This festive season, I would rather spend it with loved ones and maybe some yum cha and catching up with old friends. Hmmn, maybe some chocolates,cookies and soft drinks in Angeline’s house?  Being a working mum, the only free time I have to spend with my little one is at night and Sundays and seeing him grows up so fast make me realised that time is important to spend it with your family. It won’t be long when he outgrows that little clothes and shoes. Also with the new year coming, it’s time for new resolutions and to reflects on what you have achieved and learnt for the year. I thank God for giving me the gift of Life and brought me the new meaning of Christmas this year and thank you, my friend for explaining the meaning of Christmas!

Journey to Paradise II

November 29th, 2005 by butterfly-life

From the airport, we were taken to Western Hill for a picturesque view of Kunming and temples up the hill. Along the way, our guide sang a beautiful song to us. He explains that there is a sayDscn1034ing that says " If you can walk, you can

Picture1-Dolls wearing ethnics costumes of Yunnan

dance.If you can talk, you can sing." True enough all our guides can sing very well and even our bus driver in Lijiang who doesn’t talk much and look very fierce sang an ethnic song to us.

On the way down Western Hill, I asked a lady tour guide from other groups who were wearing an ethnic costume to take picture with me addressing her as xioa jie and she refused. Later I found out that they find it insult to call them xiao jie which for them has no difference with refering them to those in vice activities. I also found out that in Kunming, ladies were addressed as Ah Shi Ma, in Lijiang they are called Pang Jing Mei (means the dark and fat which for them is beautiful- no joke! ) and in Shangri-La is called Zhou Ma (which also sounds like sitting on the horse) and in Dali, Jing Hua (which means golden flower). If only we can recall so much so there are times that I called them by other names…instead of Jing Hua, I called Ching Hua (frog in chinese) without realising it.

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Picture 2-Stone Forest

One of the wonder in Kunming is the Stone Forest. Like its name, it is a forest covered with karst stones more than seven feets high, very much like the stalagmites in the caves. The only difference is that these stones sprout out from the ground.

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Picture 3- A lady in ethnic costume

On the third day, we flew from Kunming to Lijiang. It was a turbulent ride before reaching ground as the whole area is covered with mountains. It was very cold when we reached, around 19degC but at night, the weather dip to 5degC. My tour guide, a 22-year-old guy named Ah Niu greeted us with his Naxi ethnic costume and a long ponytail which he has kept for six years. The ponytail I feel is not part of their culture.

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We immediately toured Heilong (Black Dragon) pond which offered a serene view of the pond with a small hill and Yulong Snow Mountain as it’s backdrop, very much like those we see as the garden of the emperor in the movie. As Yunnan is covered with mountains and no where near the sea, they regarded the lakes as sea like Erhai (Ear Sea), Bitahai (Bita Sea) and etc as the chinese considered water as good fortune.

Picture5- The ancient town of Lijiang

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Then we went to the ancient town of Lijiang, made of two-storey of shops selling all kind of goods with roads made of natural stones radiating all around up the hill. Clear water from Yuquan River flows everywhere in the town and you can see the stream and brigdes connecting both side,making a very beautiful scenery.This town is declared as part of World Heritage. The shops open until late night. One particular road is lighted up bright red with lantterns where most pubs are. Two groups of party goers separated by the stream take turn singing their lungs out. My guide explained that this is the way guys get to know girls in the olden days with the groups separated to guys and girls and when they got to be together they will go hand-in-hand to another section to dance the ethnic music together.

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Picture6-9(From left to right) : First bend of the Yangtze river, Tiger leaping gorges, The Songzhanlin Monastery Shangri-La, a young monk chatting with his friend

On the fourth day, we proceed our four-hour-long journeys along the moutainous terrains up to Shangri-La. We stopped by the first bend of the Yangtze river. All along the way, the view is so spectacular. One could really feel the kind of lifestyle of the ethnic people along the mountains, so peaceful and relaxing. You see mountains after mountains and the snowcap of Yulong Snow Mountain accompanied us all the way.

We were greeted by another guide, a ZhouMa who will bring us to Shangri-La before we stopped at Tiger Leaping Gorges where fast moving river flows to the Yangtze,an ideal sport for river-rafting. The force of the wave hitting the stones can be hear from 100 feets high above the gorge. All the way down to the river bend, people selling stuffs and young children wearing ethnic costumes greeted us asking to take picture for RMB2. The lucky ones has fire by their side to keep warm while others were seen rubbing their palms. Worst, to take picture at a better location overlooking the beautiful gorge, the locals demanded RMB1 for each person entering the so-call zone.

Proceeding all the way up to Shangri-La which is above 9,000 feet above sea level, trees barely grows high, the land look dry and the sky is clear blue. Yaks grazing grasses and black furry pigs are common view at the highland. Shangri-La, the gateway to Tibet has only been open to the public in 1992. Buddhism is the main religion there and houses are built like tibet style with some having a pole with flags. According to my guide, one pole means there’s an elderly staying in the house, two poles mean there is someone praticing Dalai in the house and three means there is a Dalai in the house.

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As we approached the Songzhanlin Monastery, I could really felt that I am in Tibet eventhough Shangri-La is very near to its border. We walked the stairs up the monastery and one has to be cautious not to run and jump in case we experience altitude sickness at 10,000 feet. Its different case with the monks there. I saw a senior monk chasing a few younger ones with a stick and the young monks were running and laughing loudly. We were adviced to step into the monastery with our left foot and with the right foot on the way out. Inside, monks were listening attentively to their lessons as we walked around with some offering prayers. 

The weather at night was cold but we were lucky as we were told that usually the wind is so strong we could hear a howling sound as it hits the windows. We were entertained to some local dances and sharing a whole boar and lamb within a small group each. We visited the Bitahai Lake, a large lake at 600 feets higher than Shangri-La in the morning before heading down to Lijiang.

Our last destination before heading further down the mountain is Yulong Snow Mountain which is above 5000m above sea level. We rode the cable car from 3356m to 4506m and along the way, the wind was blowing snow into the cable car. From there, we only managed to walk in thick snow up the stairway to  4546m because of the one hour timeframe given by our guide. As we waited for our cable car, one chinese lady had to rush her few months old baby down the mountain as her baby is dozing off due to lack of oxygen, quite an ignorant part of her.

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As we bid Shangri-La and Lijiang goodbye, we proceed our journey to Dali where we visited the three pagodas and TianLong Babu(the Hollywood of the east) where a few movies were filmed there. As we drove along the terrains mountains after mountains leaving Lijiang and Shangri-La far behind, the song that our Lijiang guide sang still ran deep in our hearts. I have no doubt why Shangri-La and Lijiang are called the paradise. As the song goes ( a direct translation from the chinese song) ,

             grasses and flowers beside the lake,

               sweet scented breeze from the wind,

               the place in my mind is far away,far away

               that unforgettable night, we dance around the fire,

               eyes in contact, full of mistery

               and friendship is found.

Journey To Paradise I

November 25th, 2005 by butterfly-life

How do you define paradise? Is it a place so beautiful it cativate the hearts of those who sees it. Another name to this place is called ‘Shangri-La’ , originally named ZongDian. Shangri-La is pronounce as (shănggrĭ-lä) n which is defines as.   

  1. An imaginary remote paradise on earth; utopia.
  2. A distant and secluded hideaway, usually of great beauty and peacefulness.

[After Shangri-La, the imaginary land in the novel Lost Horizon by James Hilton.]

"Shangri-La is a fictional place described in the novel, Lost Horizon, written by British writer James Hilton in 1933. In it, "Shangri-La" is a mystical, harmonious valley, gently guided from a lamasery, enclosed in the western end of the Himalaya. Shangri-La has become synonymous with any earthly paradise but particularly a mythical Himalayan utopia - a permanently happy land, isolated from the outside world. The story of Shangri-La is based on the concept of Shambhala, a mystical city in the Buddhist religion.

Several possible places in the Buddhist Himalaya between north India and Western China have been suggested as the actual basis for Hilton’s legend. In China, Tao Qian of the Jin Dynasty described a Shangri-La in his Story of the Peach Blossom Valley, for example. The legendary Kun Lun Mountains offer other possible Shangri-La valleys.

Today, various places claim the title, such as parts of northwestern Yunnan province, including the tourist destination of Lijiang. Places like Sichuan and Tibet also claim the real Shangri-la was in its territory. In 2001, Tibet Autonomous Region put forward a proposal that the three regions optimise all Shangri-la tourism resources and promote them as one. After failed attempts to establish a China Shangri-la Ecological Tourism Zone in 2002 and 2003, government representatives of Sichuan and Yunnan provinces and Tibet Autonomous Region signed a declaration of cooperation in 2004." (source taken from the net)Yunnans

I have read a few articles about how beautiful this place is but the pictures taken in a tourist brochure really captured both Edward and my hearts and we immediately knew that we wanted to see the place with our eyes. During the most recent Matta Fair, we booked ourselves for a 8days/7nights tour to Kunming,Lijang,Dali and Shangri-La.

I was not paying attention to what the lady holding a cute child was saying as I was about to board my tour bus outside the Kunming Airport only to realised later that she was asking for money. I was observing the city as the guide explained that Kunming is a condensed city with a high population so everyone is very willing to work hard for a small pay. All along the highways, people fully utilized the fat soils to plant trees or vegetation to eat or to earn money unlike in Malaysia where much land were left empty. I see women carrying babies on their back as they carried out their daily routines. I was amazed that in a big city, horses are still being used to help to do chores.

Kunming, capital of Yunnan Province, with a history of more than 2400 years, owes its importance to the fact that it was the gateway to the celebrated Silk Road that facilitated trade with Tibet, Sichuan, Myanmar and India.

Kunming is the focal point of Yunnan minority culture. Some 26 ethnic minorities such as Han, Yi, Bai, Miao, Dai, Hani and more inhabit the region. Each group has its own featured festivals such as the Torch festival of Yi people, the Golden Temple Fair and so on. (source taken from website www.travelchinaguide.com)

Unlike what was claimed "the City of Eternal Spring" that enjoy pleasant climate all year round, I was greeted with cold air. Never to my expectation, that was just the beginning to our cold journey.                       to be continue……..

Friend or lover?

November 11th, 2005 by butterfly-life

This is interesting. I read it on TheStar today and it immediately reflects on my close friend who recently felt that she missed her boat because she can’t see the signals coming from her colleague.

How often when two people starts as friends and slowly turns to be lovers? Most of the time isn’t it? But can friends remains as friends and nothing else? If one party secretly loves the other and then that someone founds a lover, 90% of the time, the friendship will be broken.

I have been innocent to this since I came from an all-girls school until I startly going to college where I started mixing with the opposite sex. A few guys I regards as friends turned out to have other intentions in mind. Once they knew you’re not interested in them, they started ignoring you. I was sturbborn enough not to believe that you can never have that kind of relationship until I failed a few times. Not that I never mixes with guys in secondary schools….surprisingly I still can mix so well with them eventhough I am married now. Of course there is a limitation to this girl-guy friendship. I always set a boundary to this kind of relationship as not to jeopardise the beautiful friendships we created. Agree?

Anyone who has a very close relationship with a guy or few of them, so close that it never turns into love? For married ones, if you do have such friendship, does your husband feels jealous of it? Gays are exception! For those who hasn’t read the article I mentioned, I attached it below. Enjoy! And to my friend who missed her boats, you got what it means?

Do we know the difference?

ALL A GIRL WANTS IS…By TRISHA RAJAH

…To have a real boyfriend. I don’t mean the romantic kind but the other type. The one you hug but never lock lips with.   

This is the guy who gives you the inside track on what really goes on at those bachelor parties and patiently explains why it’s important to take sides in Alien vs Predator

But there is a slight problem to this scenario. It brings up that enigmatic question – can men and women be just friends? Not friends who are secretly attracted to one another. I’m talking about simple, innocent friendship. 

It seems to me that post-kindergarten, all male-female ties add up to more than just friendship because physical or emotional connections eventually enter the equation. 

Last Saturday night at a dinner party in Mont Kiara, I asked some friends about platonic relationships between the sexes. The woman in the group said, yes, of course men and women can be friends, and immediately began naming her male buddies. Her husband didn’t seem so convinced.   

The rest (all men) took a lot longer to reply. They hummm-ed and they hah-ed until one of them piped up: “I think your definition of a platonic relationship is too strict,” he said, brow furrowed.   

“I mean, what’s wrong with picturing an attractive lady friend in a couple of compromising situations?”   

His buddy chimed in: “I think there’s nothing wrong with sleeping together as long as both parties know where they stand.” Hmmmm . . . that might be possible except for a small glitch – a platonic relationship is specifically non-sexual.   

Personally, I believe that pure friendship between the sexes is a myth. I’m not saying that there is NO way men and women can maintain a relationship without any emotional and/or physical intimacy. There is always the exception – for example, you’ve been friends since you were three and think of each other as family.   

But in my opinion, friendships between men and women are doomed to failure because there are just too many battles to fight. There is the beast called Physical Attraction. And if that doesn’t get you by the ankles, there’s the phantom called Emotional Intimacy waiting to pounce.   

It’s perhaps only possible to retain a platonic friendship if both parties are either legally bound or wisely choose to retain a distance between each other. Think about Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. When they were first seen together they fed us that tired “we’re just friends” routine. They’re now known as Brangelina and, apparently, a wedding is on the horizon. If that happens, the “friends” will have to eat their wedding cake and words too. 

People like these are kidding you and ultimately themselves. Pulling the wool over everyone else’s eyes is harmless if you’re not already involved in a serious relationship but what if you are? How do you know if you have crossed that imperceptible but significant line that lies between friendship and something more?   

It’s all well and good if all you’re discussing with Minah/Ravi from the office is how the boss sounds (and looks!). But grousing about the boyfriend’s irritating habits to

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or the wife’s nagging to Minah is not a good idea. If you find yourself divulging more secrets to your friend than your wife or boyfriend, then I say, take a step back. 

For me, trusting your “friend” of the opposite sex more than your significant other is like a huge danger sign flashing over your head.   

We’re only human, after all, and very few (if any) have taken on the ogre called Temptation and won the fight. We all know the price of such a battle – broken hearts. 

So, it’s probably a good idea to steer away from dangerous waters. It’ll be too late to cast anchor when one day you wake up and discover that your Friend Ship has morphed into the Love Boat.

A Complicated Matter

November 10th, 2005 by butterfly-life

Actually it’s not that complicated afterall, at least from my point of view. I was sitting across the cafe facing my friend after ordering my drink and something to munch on and we started by asking how each other are doing and all. You know how people says there’s only three things bothering guys which are money,career and women. So I knew all along that this friend of mine has something to tell and you guess it…he’s quite well-to-do and he works with his father!

This is very much like ‘Tell Thelma’ every Sunday in TheStar newspaper columns but the story began with him knowing this girl A who is barely 20 years old this year and he feels that she’s the kind,caring type who suits him as future wife but he never shows any feeling towards her eventhough she hinted to him that she is interested in him. So finally A gave up and accepted a new boyfriend who treats her very well. That’s when it hits my friend that he can’t lose her so he confessed to her his feelings but A asked him to give her time to break-up with her current boyfriend.

Then my friend left the country and met up with B who isn’t attached but used to has a liking for him and they spent a few days together and found out that they are quite fond of each other.However they never promised each other anything because B isn’t sure if she wants to come back to Malaysia to work. When my friend came back,he asked A whether she has broken off with the boyfriend and if not,maybe it’s better she does not tell the boyfriend about it because my friend feels that he might not be able to treat her better than the boyfriend.

A was so hurt she cried and accused him of giving her false hope and this makes my friend feeling guilty. Now I’m not the mushy kind of person and I admit I am not the best person to consult about men women relationships. The typical yet rusty engineering side of me just analyse, weigh out the pros and cons and make the decision….not much feelings involve.If only it’s that easy. I told him that what he does is correct. Just choose one.

Since A already has a boyfriend,I doubted anyone needs time to dump a person, so she isn’t the best choice. I just feel that she is being selfish and inmature for wanting both guys. She is just cheating her current boyfriend’s feeling because she does not love him as much as she loves my friend. Unlike A, B is not attached and a better potential for love to develope. B only has to work things out and if both really love each other, it shouldn’t be a problem for B to come back to work.

Of course the matter of hearts aren’t that easy. Now, men are just so weak when it comes to tears and women…or shall I say everyone is just being selfish? I feels that he just want both. If things doesn’t work out with A then he still has B but this isn’t some property or shares investment. This just show that he doesn’t love both that much. I definitely can’t put myself into so many situations at once but men…they can multitask. That’s why you see married men having mistresses. I might be wrong and my friend is definitely not satisfied with what I said. What about you?

Two Brave Hearts

October 31st, 2005 by butterfly-life

They came by surprise. Last week we heard some commotion coming from our two Rottweilers barking louding and faint sound of puppies crying.Upon checking the sound, we found two small white puppies propably of mixed breed hiding inside the drain of where my dad use to park his 4-wheel drive. How they got into the house,we have no idea. My mom said probably they crept through the drain from outside.

Tired, wet and hungry they did not dare to come out when we call out for them. I asked my sister to feed them some milk ….seeing them still tiny and probably just left by their mum. My mum doubted they will leave if they are being feed.However my mom gave in. At first they were afraid to come out even when milk was offer on a plastic container put inside the drain. One licked and the other was so clumsy the whole container spilled.

The next day they crept out slowly and my sister continue feeding them. A few days later they were running around the house’s basement compound. Once I saw them chasing my sis and crept on her feet playing with her while she feed them. Seeing them so much healthier is a relief. However each time they came out, our two Rottweilers will barked ferociously. The family had agreed to let the puppies stay and leave as they like but we put a barrier between them and our two dogs.

I was feeding my baby when I heard a sudden howl. Even my son looked up from his feeding. Upon checking,one puppy has walked up the basement stairway up to the garden. In front of her was my fierce Rottweiler barking and ready to launch himself on her anytime. I shouted loudly at my Rottweiler.At least it gave the puppy time to crept down the stairway.

However the two puppies are getting braver by getting out of the gate through the small opening between the steels and played with joggers who passed by the house. My sister bathed them once and they still come back with lice. They got even bolder by coming up the stairs where my two dogs guarded the house. They are indeed very smart. Once my husband and I walked my baby on a stroller around the hill. They followed but somehow they turned back and return to the house fearing that we will bring them far and leave them behind.Not only that.They barked at other dogs that came near the door.

Today my mom instructs my husband to put them in a box and send them away. We can’t keep on watching over them while they roam around the house and not fearing that our two Rottweilers will not bite them to death.Help! anyone wants them?

What happen to efficiency?

October 26th, 2005 by butterfly-life

I believe with the Deepavali and Hari Raya celebrations being so close together,most people will take time off to spend the holidays with their families. That means that our house are vunerable to robberies when we’re not in. Nevertheless, our police force has annouced on the press that we should sms or call to the police hotline given to let them know when we’ll be gone and where we stayed so that policemen can patrol the area more often. Now, how can we be assured that the information given will be in the safe hand? What if it lands in the  hand of people attempting robberies?

I have a story here regarding sms-ing hotline. Not too long ago, most public transport ie buses,lorries and etc. were given ‘talian hotline’ and sms number (they still have it) at the back of the vehicles so that we the good citizens will call or sms the line to report of any abuse of such vehicles on the road.

Being the good citizen I am (ahem!) one day while on the highway,my husband and I spotted a bus carrying a whole load of passengers speeding along the highway at more than 130km/hr on the fast lane overtaking most passenger cars. Moreover the bus is emitting thick smoke from it’s hose polluting the whole highway.So I tried sms-ing the number given at the back of the bus with the bus number plate and stating the offence the driver did a few times but the message kept returning to me stating there isn’t such number existing. The number is too busy to receive any call? A friend of mine told me the same thing when he tried it. You can still see the hotline number and sms on all the vehicles now….anyone care to be a good citizen?